A baby loss charity is encouraging people across Scotland to support mums who have experienced pregnancy or baby loss as Mother’s Day approaches.
Sands, a UK charity which supports bereaved families, has shared advice on simple ways people can show they care during what can be a difficult time.
Mother’s Day can bring mixed emotions for people whose baby has died, whether the loss happened recently or many years ago.
Jen Coates, Director of Bereavement Support and Volunteering at Sands, said the charity often hears from families who find the day particularly challenging.
She said: “We know from bereaved families that have experienced baby loss, days like Mother’s Day can be full of mixed emotions. At Sands we understand that you are still and will always be a mum, no matter when your loss happened. And we are here for you.
“For those wanting to support a bereaved mum, we understand that you may not know, or be worried about, what to say around Mother’s Day.
“The run-up to Mother’s Day can be difficult for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss or the death of a baby, and some mums may need help to express how they feel and what they need. So, we’ve put together ten simple things you can say or do to show that you care.
“Family, friends, and work colleagues may feel unsure how to handle the lead up to Mother’s Day with someone touched by pregnancy or baby loss. However, saying or doing something is better than nothing at all.”
Among the suggestions are sending a simple message to say you are thinking of them, acknowledging their baby by name, asking how they are feeling and offering to spend time together.
Sands says small gestures can make a big difference, especially on days when grief may feel more visible.
The charity also reminds people that bereaved mothers will always remember their babies and may find comfort in personal ways of marking the day.
Sands offers support services including a free confidential helpline, email support and online groups for anyone affected by pregnancy loss or the death of a baby.
The helpline is open Monday to Friday from 10.00am to 3.00pm, with additional evening hours Tuesday to Thursday from 6.00pm to 9.00pm, and 10.00am to 12.00pm on Mother’s Day.
People can call 0808 164 3332 or find support through the Sands website, here: https://www.sands.org.uk/.
Sands has published tips on its website about simple things anyone can do to show they care:
| No. | Ways to support someone touched by pregnancy or baby loss this Mother’s Day |
|---|---|
| 1 | A simple message such as “I’m thinking of you” can make all the difference. |
| 2 | Let them know you understand they may be finding Mother’s Day difficult. |
| 3 | Say their baby’s name. |
| 4 | Ask them how they are and if there is anything they need. |
| 5 | Reassure them that it’s ok to feel how they are feeling. |
| 6 | Encourage them to take things at their own pace, one step at a time. |
| 7 | Encourage them to do what is best for them, even if that means saying “no” or stepping back. |
| 8 | Offer to do an activity together – a walk or a coffee – if they would like to. |
| 9 | Be yourself and be genuine in whatever you say. |
| 10 | Say “I’m sure days like this are especially hard, but how can I also support you throughout the year?” |